On a more serious note; Suicide

[JtWo]

Really, what brings people to do this? Within the past WEEK I've had to deal with 2 suicides and a shooting of a family member. I'm really curious what people see in ending their lives. They might think that it ends their problems, but it only creates more problems for their loved ones. The first suicide was earlier last week and I've just been stressing over that. Friday night my cuzzo got shot. And Sunday night my other cousin OD'd on his meds intentionally. Again, this may be relief for them, but for other people it really causes more problems. My whole weekend was ruined, I forgot and failed so many things. I could have died earlier this morning. I was driving and dozed off thinking about the ones i lost recently going a bit faster than speed limit and i hit a curb and lost traction. If I didnt have a history with racing i probably wouldn't have been able to recover and would've crunked my car and got injured or died.

I'm sorry for this rant. I just want everyone who's have a hard time to reconsider their thoughts. You might be going through more than you can handle, but don't be so selfish...

[ceech]

j2, sorry for your lost. i know exactly how you feel. my advice on how to deal with such things is to really focus on positive things in your life. it's on the same line as "The Secret". whatever you focus on, you think about, you will bring about to your life.

consume your thoughts with positive people and positive thoughts, so you won't have any room for anything else.

[MikeyP]

i've been through this too. still, i dont have anything to say to make it better.

i'm sorry man, i really am

[SantaCruzIce]

Sorry to hear that dude, for real. I lost one of my best friends this year and I know it can be rough. For real though, if you stick to the things you love that help you zone out at least for a little such as dance or music or friends etc, it helps make the time go by and continue with the healing process. However, don't forget to give yourself time to grieve or bum out, it's a process that we have to go through and it's important to deal with it. It sounds like you are so that's good. It's when people try to ignore feelings and push them down for a long time that problems start to arise. We talked about a lot of this ish in my counseling program.

Stay up dude, you got a family here for you. This goes for anyone else who has gone through a similar situation and just hasn't made it public.

[DocLock]

Sorry to hear about that and I thank you for sharing. Been through this as well on several occasions.

Just went through this in April when my brother-in-law from my exwife shot himself. He was really sick and hurting beforehand. Seemed like the world was completely caving in towards the end with the way things were going on in his life. In fact, I was at the funeral right before the night of Homecoming so I really needed to dance cause I was all messed up inside.

I recognize the hardships that people go through. Yes, it hurts. Can't imagine the physical pain and such for terminally ill patients. Or the severe emotional struggles someone may be encountering at that time. They may feel that is a way out for them, but people left behind end up suffering also.

It makes you mad as hell about it at first. Makes you scream out why the f*&# you have to be so dammmn selfish??! Don't you f!!!!!! know people love you and need you!! WHY???!!

There's no answer to that question. None that we are privy to know.

All there is is that LOVE.

BECAUSE of that LOVE, we CAN forgive the act. We just appreciate the good times and be thankful you were able to share them.

Keep loving and be loved.

[Double You Kong]

Suicide is never the way to go. THere is always support available via family, friends, or even professional help. I've had a friend almost succeed in a suicide just because of a boy....

The problem is that we sometimes do not see the bigger picture. What we do in our everyday lives affects each other more than we think. It's also a matter of giving each other continued support. You never know... a simple "hi" can make the biggest difference.

I've seen quite a few deaths, and I must say the best deaths are for LATER ON. When you have fulfilled all your goals as best as possible with no regrets while let nature run it's natural course... then you'll be ready.

Suicide is never the way to go.

Damn it's 4 am

[radpaolo.]

Wow, as somebody to has gone through, and still admittedly dealing with that kind of stuff, it's kind of refreshing to see the other take on suicide.

It's a process, but it's always nice to hear something positive, instead of your own personal warped monologue in your head.